[ctspartan]

I've got a drop-dead gorgeous black wife. We've been all over Italy, France, London, NYC, Detroit, Lansing/Okemos/Haslett/East Lansing, South Carolina and many parts of the south, you name it, and never had a comment directed our way, so I suspect ISparticus's experience might be an anomaly, although I believe him. Many, many times I've been the only white person in the area, and an equal number of times she's been the only black person. Thousands of times. Then again, I might not be one of the "good ones", although my wife thinks I'm handsome. :-)

There are three places where we've noticed distinct racism.
1) If you're in a nice hotel (only in some parts of the US or Africa, not Europe), they assume my wife is a prostitute.
2) House-seeking or apartment-seeking. Northern hypocrisy - the method by which the Northeast in particular maintains segregation without laws. This is where white women get their revenge, since they control the industry. Can't tell you how many of these brokers and agents I've busted over the years. What's really great (especially in "liberal" Massachusetts, haha) is to do the house/apartment search on your own and then have your minority wife suddenly show up at the signing. The look on the RE (white woman) agent's face is funny beyond belief. The same look on the TV show Punked.
3) Corporate environment - if you're in a managerial or executive position, watch out. Pure correlation: when the women in my groups had never seen my wife, the group worked like a top. After my wife showed up at a Christmas party, the guys, minorities or white, were totally cool, but the women of various colors began all kinds of disruptive behavior, seemingly subconsciously. If you're moving up the corporate ladder, NEVER take your minority wife to a corporate event - your career will go down the tubes. Male business leadership culture thinks of black women as very appropriate to ****, but not marry - a weird form of racism.

Setting the record straight:
1) I've gone back after going black. And after going Indian, Filipino, Chinese, Jewish, etc, also. The juice is equally sweet in all cases.
2) The most racist cultures for inter-ethnic dating are Chinese (totally), followed by Indians. Foxbat was right; way beyond any white racism. Black culture is accepting if you make yourself a part of the community and don't set yourself apart. Jewish dating is beautiful, until it looks like it might be marriage, then it turns nastier than just about anything.