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If you have some unmarried guests who are not in a relationship (ie. they'd probably have to recruit someone to come with them), I think it is okay to explain the situation to them and ask them to just come alone. This works especially well if there are a few such folks that know each other so you can explain that Mary Jo and Steve are doing the same. Then you can have a singles table where they can sit and no one has to feel like the 3rd wheel.
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The underlying question for me is why go through that trouble? If you care enough about the person to have him/her there, why put up barriers? Why does that person have to come alone when others can bring dates/SOs?
There were people that we didn't invite to our wedding because we thought space was an issue. Turns out we had about 20-some no-shows. 9 of those were from one family and there had been a death. But I could have and should have invited those I thought I didn't have space for because others said they were coming and didn't bother (or couldn't.)
I don't feel right asking someone to come honor me but do it on my terms. That's just me I guess.
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07-03-2009, 02:34 PM
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I just got a wedding invite for a wedding that I am flying across the country for. No guest invited. Me= Pissed. Funny this thread pops up a day later. Don't know what to do, but I'm not staying long.
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07-03-2009, 02:37 PM
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true. eff that... unless you are single and know there are going to be hot single coeds there.
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07-03-2009, 02:37 PM
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I just got a wedding invite for a wedding that I am flying across the country for. No guest invited. Me= Pissed. Funny this thread pops up a day later. Don't know what to do, but I'm not staying long.
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just send a gift
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07-03-2009, 05:22 PM
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Ehh. It's my best friend's older brother...who lived with us at college for a year. I feel guilty, but **** I had a date all lined up, we were both excited...and then the invite doesn't say guest. I'm kind of torn on what to do.
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If this guy was such a great buddy, in my book he wouldn't expect you to fly 1/2 across the country to sit by yerself while you eat mediocre chicken or mostaccioli and listen to the dulcet tones of Bob Seger singing "Old Time Rock N' Roll."
Fella, just respectfully decline to go. If you feel compelled to give an explanation say that you had planned to take a date but you couldn't so you're going to do something with her instead.
Send a check. Your presence won't be missed as much as you think. Groom will be too busy to think.
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07-03-2009, 05:51 PM
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If your invite says +1, you can bring a date. If it doesn't, you can't.
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07-03-2009, 05:54 PM
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If your invite says +1, you can bring a date. If it doesn't, you can't.
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Gee, thanks for the groundbreaking news 
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07-03-2009, 06:01 PM
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I don't think it's that complicated. If you are still confused, just ask the bride or groom (whichever one you are closest to) if you can bring a guest. Don't argue with them on it, it's their wedding and they are paying for it.
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07-03-2009, 06:02 PM
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If you don't allow people to bring a guest:
You = cheap ass
This is second only to a cash bar at a wedding in terms of cheesiness.
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LOL...this reminds me of my best friends wedding. My wife and I got married 2 months before my best friend and his girlfriend, they stood up for us, then we stood up for them. They picked their date after we announced ours so no hurt feelings. Anyway, we had an open bar and 3-400 people at the reception. They had maybe 75 people, and a cash bar. The brides dad bought drinks for her sister and boyfriend, but told the bride and groom they were on their own!! The wedding party all chipped in so they didn't have to pay at their own wedding. Now that is cheesy.
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07-03-2009, 06:06 PM
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One of my friends was having problems with one of our mutual friends and didn't really care if she came to her wedding. She invited the friend, but not her fiance...and they live in California. That effectively ended the friendship  |
A wedding invite ended a friendship? Wow 
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07-03-2009, 06:16 PM
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Its your wedding......invite who you want.
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07-03-2009, 08:12 PM
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The wife drove 5 hours to an out-of-town wedding last weekend> I was unable to attend. She attended the wedding with a recently widowed friend of ours>expected to have company @ the reception BUT found herself NOT sitting at the same table as her friend!!!!> Totally ruined the trip/experience and by the time she gets home mad @ all the wedding planners.
Sometimes really wonder what some people are thinking???
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07-03-2009, 08:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Ozymandias
I don't think it's that complicated. If you are still confused, just ask the bride or groom (whichever one you are closest to) if you can bring a guest. Don't argue with them on it, it's their wedding and they are paying for it.
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I get it, and I agree that it shouldn't be a point of contention. I never bring a guest to a wedding just to bring one. However if someone is traveling a great distance to your wedding or is in a situation that they really don't know anyone else that will be in attendance it is courteous to give the the option of bringing someone.
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07-03-2009, 08:26 PM
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Not being able to bring a guest if I'm single and invited... Jay-Z said it best: "Can I get a **** you"
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07-03-2009, 08:31 PM
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I don't think it's that complicated. If you are still confused, just ask the bride or groom (whichever one you are closest to) if you can bring a guest. Don't argue with them on it, it's their wedding and they are paying for it.
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That isn't what this thread is about
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